Born in Yonkers, NY, Paul grew up in Worcester, MA where he attended Lawrence Academy Prep School. He entered Yale in1949, but left to join the Navy during the Korean War.  He joined the Class of 1956 by way of NAPS. He served four years in destroyers and submarines.

Subsequent to his Navy service, Paul married and then opened his own insurance agency in Worcester, MA.  In 1970, he moved his family to Long Island where he worked for the Pfizer Drug Company as a pharmaceutical sales representative.  Paul’s marriage ended in divorce in 1981.

After an early retirement from Pfizer in 1984, he opened his own restaurant, Café De Cartoon. From Long Island, Paul moved to West Hartford, CT and then to New Hampshire where he lived for twelve years. In 1999, he returned to live in Connecticut to be near family.  He passed away there on 21 January 2004 after a long battle with cancer.

He is survived by his four children: Anne K. Benoit of Unionville, CT; Paul D. Graf, Jr. of Norwich, CT; Michael J. Graf of Londonderry, NH; and Lynn C. Pintavale of East Hartford, CT.  He also has six grandchildren: Brian, Kayla, Chelsea, Brianna, John, and Colleen.